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Hello everyone! I am back after a little break of just being too too busy. Oh and before we start today I better again mention, This is my personal blog so always remember that these are my views and thoughts and not those of my charity. If I do say anything as ‘Epilepsy Action’ then I will make that loud and clear. So here we go, back to me…
Well how was your Easter? Mine was mixture of busy busy fun along with some much needed relaxation. We went to the Billionaire Boys Club and Glamour & Excess Easter Bunny party at Oracle in Leeds. This was great fun. But let me just tell you there are some nights out where you really SHOULD NOT wear your four inch heels. Starting parties at 9pm and dancing through till 3am does not make your feeties love you in the morning. I know because mine were positively frowning at me for two days afterwards. As you can all probably guess the relaxation came AFTER the party.
Thus for the next party (which is rapidly approaching) I shall be wearing pretty girlie pumps of no higher than two inches – I promise. No really feeties I promise you! I will never do that to you again.
Hmmnnnnnn. Well some of you may be wondering how my fundraising is going!
Those of you who know me well will know of my inherent optimism and constant smiling…. well if there is one thing that can test my usual exuberance it is the
I know that all charities are working hard to maximise their resources – but there are certainly days right now when I groan a little.
Some people are cancelling their usual direct debit donations – and lets be fair who can blame them!
However I cannot help but wonder how many realise just how much the charity sector relies on their support. Certainly for my charity over 90 percent of our income is from voluntary donation, or individuals’ participation in our many events.
So yes some days I groan a little.
However I groan not only for the charity but for the person who feels they have to stop their donation. It really cannot be an easy moment.
Every single pound we choose to give to a charity is important. Every generous gift we make is going towards helping someone, improving life chances, saving a life, improving the environment, and changing the world forever.
So – it certainly cannot be easy to stop your charity donations. For all of us the credit crunch is making things hard.
But life was not meant to be just easy! So perhaps we will all learn a lot at this time. Or at the very least remember things we have maybe forgotten.
I for one have begun to remember just how much I like to be at home in my own kitchen and cook!
A couple of weeks ago I stayed with a friend who clearly also really enjoyed cooking for us both.
I have had groups of friends come round for the evening and we have eaten and drank together, watched DVDs, listened to music, played on the computer reading each other’s facebooks, updating our websites, and generally having just as much fun in my apartment as we would ordinarily have been having in the local pub or wine bar.
So perhaps, although hard, this is a time when we all remember how important it is to pull together, care about each other, and plough our more limited funds into the things that really matter to us. The people and things we care about.
Please, everyone, do remember that the charities you support and care about continue to matter too – and they continue to matter to you. If you can, don’t stop giving altogether. Reduce it perhaps, or give in other ways: through participation in fun events for example, or even by writing the charity of your choice into your will. Just don’t leave them behind forever – none of us know when we ourselves may need the support of a charity.
Actually writing this made me think of the charities that have supported my family.
Macmillan Cancer Support helped us through my dad’s cancer, staying with him and us until his final day. So thank you so much Macmillan, we all needed you.
British Heart Foundation supported us when we lost our mum to heart attack.
I myself have worked in numerous charities. I have worked with socially and economically deprived children – seeing things that opened my eyes to worlds and lives I could not otherwise have ever believed were taking place here in the UK.
I have work with terminally ill children and children living with life limiting conditions – they and their families need huge amounts of care and support, and I shall remember every one of them that I met that are no longer with us today.
Today of course I work for Epilepsy Action, a charity providing services and a voice for all people living with epilepsy in the UK, and their families. I myself had epilepsy as a child and so understand the difficulties and issues that confront you when living with this condition, and thus why our services are so vital.
Every charity you will know of needs financial support to enable them to provide the help and services they are there to provide.
Every pound you donate supports making our world a better place, a better space for us all to share.
I have reduced my own donations to the charities I support, and when I can I will increase them again.
Yes, my charitable giving is on the edge of my budget – but it is a necessary expense and one that will remain on my budget because who knows what is around the corner. For me, for my loved ones, or for any of us.
DON’T EVER FORGET THAT FROM ONE BLADE OF GRASS WE CAN GROW A LAWN
Every £1 donated to charity goes towards changing someone’s life or positively changing our environment. My charity www.epilepsy.org.uk, and every charity – we need you.
KEEP ON GIVING. YOUR GIVING COUNTS!
Di x
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Di Flatt
This is my personal blog so always remember that these are my views and thoughts and not those of my charity. If I do say anything as ‘Epilepsy Action’ then I will make that loud and clear.
Good Sunday morning to you. I am already on my second coffee, having watched Andrew Marr – my favourite start for the day on Sundays. Now avidly watching The Big Questions with Nicky Campbell, and they are currently debating the rights and wrongs of early sex and whether parents should be telling children that sex can be wrong. I am surprised at quite how wide ranging the views from the audience are.
In my view children need and seek out boundaries and thus we do need to be able to tell young people what is considered right and wrong by society, and within the law. Young people have their own minds and opinions and I think our role is to ensure that we as adults demonstrate moral guidelines through our own behaviours. Just like anything in life as leaders we need to be seen to be ‘walking the walk’ not just talking the talk. So I don’t think it is about our drumming in the rights and wrongs per se, but in ensuring our own behaviour demonstrates behaving in a sensible, moral and safe manner. Surely this is the best way forward.
Anyway this totally digresses from what I was going to say – my fault for watching television at the same time as writing this.
I, as probably most of you, find myself thinking and worrying about the doom and gloom of recession and the credit crunch. Just earlier I was reading online a definition of ‘credit crunch’:
So, businesses are selling less, and the nation has less cash to spend. Worrying times for all of us in the world of charity and fundraising to say the least.
However, one thing that will not change is human behaviours. Our world is full of egoists and altruists and everything in between. Those people who are altruistic will continue to be so and the egoists may continue to be selfish – or not, the jury is out on this. Recession can mean people will pull together more at a community level – so maybe from the credit crunch will grow a whole new crop of altruists? Time will tell.
This made me think more about altruism and so being my usual geeky self I was just researching altruism on line, and came across an ‘egoism versus altruism’ test.
It appears from my test that I am 91% empathetic, and this is what they had to say:
“Your results indicate that empathy is one of your strong suits. You are able to identify with other people and their feelings, as well as see things from their perspective. Many researchers believe that empathy is a defining characteristic of true altruists. It’s the ability to empathize with others that often motivates people to help someone. Being able to really understand where others’ are coming from and why they would truly benefit from your consideration most likely makes any kind gesture you commit all the more meaningful. In addition, taking that moment to put yourself in other people’s shoes and trying to see the world through their eyes has probably helped you learn a lot about not just them, but yourself too.”
I think the best thing about helping others isn’t the fuzzy feeling of warmth it provokes in me, but the fact that when I have helped someone they may go on to want to help someone else, and so on. Empathy and helpfulness has an infectious nature, and so has the potential to grow and grow.
Offering support and being there when needed doesn’t just benefit the people around us, but will benefit ourselves as well. As I said the other day to give is to receive, so I think we, as fundraisers, really need to keep concentrating hard on giving of ourselves.
This reminds me of the famous speech often attributed to Nelson Mandela. The original words were in fact written by Marianne Williamson, and it is a subject of regular debate as to whether Mr Mandela ever did actually use the words in a speech or not. However, it is still worth a read – and it certainly inspires me.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. “
Whether religious or not, I think this speech holds strength for all of us.
So fundraisers, in this time of economic doom and gloom, let us not focus on the dark but switch on our lights. Play big, serve the world, and give others permission to do the same. Keep on giving and we will keep on receiving.
Well I better go and catch up on house chores, emails, facebook, twitter and phone calls. Have a great day and I will be back soon.
DON’T EVER FORGET THAT FROM ONE BLADE OF GRASS WE CAN GROW A LAWN
Every £1 donated to charity goes towards changing someone’s life or positively changing our environment. My charity www.epilepsy.org.uk, and every charity – we need you.
KEEP ON GIVING.
Di x
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